Today is a New Day

Today is a new day, rejoice and be blessed in it.  Ladies, make this day the day for new thinking, new actions, new directions and a new you.

Embrace who you are, and love who you are becoming.   Continue to want better, strive to become better everyday.  Life is about knowing and growing.

Because we are women, we are not a lesser person in the eyes of God. As Godly women we must rule the sphere that God puts us in with total trust in Him. We may be single, married, mothers, professionals, grandmothers, retirees, and much more, but first and foremost, we must be Godly women, totally trusting in Christ as our Lord and Savior. Our faithfulness should be evident in whatever we do.

It is never by our strength that we overcome the hurdles of life, but only God’s strength as He works through us. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 

WEW will continue to affirm the beauty, the power, the wisdom and the strength in each of us.

Today is a new day ladies, be Blessed.

Know That This Is Your Time

I am very excited about the new opportunities coming my way.  Just when I felt that my desire and passion to reach out and help women reach their full potential was being met with negative responses or women who want to come in and change the focus of what God gave me the inspiration to build or just people who want to only know what you can do for them, opportunities started coming in from the north, south, east and west.  I say this to you because I want you to know that this is your time to reach out and go forward with whatever you desire.   Know that when you feel that there is no way, God will open up 7 different ways.

Know that you have a blessing coming every day.  Know that this is your time!  Financial difficulties, family disparities, lack of employment, completing that course to obtain your certification, whatever it is that you want and have put in the time, prayer and work to achieve, THIS IS YOUR TIME.

Everyday that God blesses you to wake up, be joyous.  Continue to walk the path that you feel is right for you and that you know that God has laid out for you, and know that this is your time.

Chang your attitude and the way you allow everyday issues to affect your being.  Do not allow anyone or anything to make you lose your focus of what is important, love for God, love for self, love for family and love for your community.   Know that this is your time.

Be Blessed Always.

Stand Strong

My family and I lost a family member last week.  My nephew's passing was very unexpected to us. My family is at a lost right now, but we stand strong in our faith in God that he needed him more than we did.  To everyone who takes the time to read my blog, I thank you.    I want to say that life will throw you a curve ball, but it is how you stand that will carry you through.

I talk alot about faith, and anyone that knows me understands that I love God with every fiber of my being and I stand on his word (that never comes back void), that he will heal my family. and yours if you are going through turmoil.

Stand strong!  Do not give up!  Stay on your course of being better! Reach out to those in need!

Know that God is in control.

Be Blessed Always!

If You Suffer From Depression, Please Seek Help

With today's economy in the can, many are suffering from depression.  If you are one of the many suffering from depression, please seek help.  Sometimes, there are so many things we are tackling that it seems overwhelming at times.  With taking care of the kids, worrying about money, lack of medical care, trying to keep food on the table, choosing between gas and a loaf of bread, all of this can keep you up at night.

I want to tell you that you are not alone, and there are people who will help you sort things out.  You have to be willing to open up and let someone know what is going on.   In the same breath, we as neighbors, sisters, friends, wives and co-workers must be available and compassionate enough to listen and offer sound advice.

Feeling like no one will understand what you are going through is a horrible feeling.   Feeling unappreciated, unloved, mis-understood or just isolated will sink you into a well of dispair and depression.   Please seek help, seek someone to talk to.  Help is out there, if you reach out for it.

If you have no one to talk to, contact WEW and we will be there for you, and steer you in the direction of people who can help you.  You are not alone!


Be Blessed

Life Is Too Short

Take the time and enjoy life.  Where ever you live, regardless of what you may be going through, please, take the time and find the positive and enjoy life. 

We take a lot for granted.  We are also faced with many of life's adversities.  We must learn to stand on our faith and realize that it can and will get better.   Enjoy everday that God gives you.  Life is too short.

Know that everyday is another opportunity for you to be better.  Everyday is another opportunity for you to enrich, nuture, guide and love your family.  Everyday is another opportunity for you to get right what was wronged yesterday.  Everyday is another opportunity!

Life is too short.  Please spend each day being positive, encouraging, uplifting and inspirational to everyone  you come in contact with. 

Be Blessed Always

Please, Double Check Who Your Child is Looking Up To

Let me start by saying, that YOU should be your child's role model!  You should have responsible, mature, hard working, wise people in your child's life.  Now, if for whatever reason, you are not the person who you want your child to emulate, please Double Check who your child is looking up to.    Everyone is not a role model.  Let your child know the difference between a good role model and a joke.

If you and your child choose to make an entertainer a role model, please double check why you want to make that person the role model.  Girls (young and old) need to get back to behaving like a lady.   Boys (young and old) need to get back to behaving like a real man.  Know that the key word is ENTERTAIN.  Take what you see and hear with a grain of salt.  Their job is to make YOU believe in something that 99% of the time is NOT TRUE, because once you buy into it, a fool and his money will soon part.  There are entertainers that give back to those that are in need.  There are entertainers that take their craft seriously and do not have to degrade themselves, their families nor their community to make it.  These are the ones that would make a great model to follow.   

If you choose to make an athlete a role model, please double check why you want to make that person the role model.  Let the reason you want to emulate or pattern yourself after someone, one that will make YOU BETTER, not just because you like his shoes.

Whether you choose a politician, a lawyer, a doctor, a neighbor, a pastor, a family member, make sure you DOUBLE check who your child is looking up to and make sure they understand what it means to be a role model and how looking up to that person will impact their life.

Be Blessed!

Work on Your Diction, Please

Ladies, please work on your diction.  This is the year 2011, and there is NO REASON for many of you to still speak like you are either on the plantation or stuck in the backwoods.  If for whatever reason you did not go to school, finish school or chose not to pay attention when you were in school, you must learn how to speak correctly.   

Now, I am not saying that you have to use BIG words, nor am I saying that you have to speak PROPER, all I am saying is that you NEED to speak where people can understand that you are saying.   Please stop inserting the word LIKE in your sentence after every other word spoken.   And if I hear one more GROWN WOMAN say, "You know what namin", I am going to jump out of the window.   What is that???   Are you attempting to say, "Do you know what I mean"?    Take the time to say each word, as it should be pronounced.  

If you think I am attempting to pull some Bourgeous Bull, or attempting to throw some shade in your direction, you are wrong.   What I am attempting to do is pull out the best in you.   Why speak like you are illiterate when you are not.   Teach your children how to speak correctly.  Teach simple things like, yes maam and no sir.  Teach them to say "Yes" instead of "um huh", and the word "No" instead of "Naw".

Ladies, to be better takes work.   We all have things we can improve on.   Now is the time to work on your diction, please!

Be Blessed

Are You Really Shocked?

The infidelities of Arnold is the news of the day!  Are you really shocked?  Is this really news worthy?  First, Arnold is not the first and will not be the last politician who is a whore.  He was a WHORE lllloooonnnggg before he met her, and SHE KNEW IT.     Second, Maria is not new to the political game, she comes from a family of political men who ALL had women on the side, and believe me she knows this political game as well as anyone.    Third, the hurt only came when she found out that the woman she has trusted with her own children, has a child with her husband.   So, what!!

Not to sound hard hearted, but If you are one who held ARNOLD in high regard, with all the SHADY shit he did while he was in office, then you are truly in my prayers.   I would rather talk about the budget cuts that are going to hit us like a TON OF BRICKS.    I would rather talk about how we can work together and make sure we are not standing in a line waiting for a bowl of rice soup to be distributed BECAUSE THE PRICE OF FOOD IS SO HIGH.   I would rather talk about how the gas prices are OFF THE CHAIN, and no one can seem to give us a logical reason why.   Are you really shocked as to why Arnold and Maria's PERSONAL issue is the news of the day?

Who wants to really talk about the REAL issues, I guess that would be too much like right!

Poor Maria!  SMH.



Be Blessed!

Continue to Uplift Each Other

 I really believe that the time for us to learn to help and uplift each other is now.  With cuts in programs that will affect all of us in some form looming, we must get to a point were we put aside petty differences and learn to uplift each other.   The sad state of our monetary crisis that we find ourselves in, will unfortunately affect those already living from piller to post.

Unfortunately, many of the programs  that are geared toward helping those in need will not be around anymore.  We have got to find a way in these desperate times to continue to uplift each other.  Reach out to your neighbors, check on the elderly in your complex, peek in on that disabled person. 

 Not everyone will be able to mentally handle the cuts that are about to happen.  More jobs will be lost, the price of food will continue to sky rocket, the price of gas will continue to rise, housing costs will never decrease to acceptable levels and many will be displaced.   During these trying times to come, continue to uplift each other.

Now is the time to band together, work together and advance together.  


Be Blessed

Where Do You Stand!

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

I read today that there are over 44 million people living in poverty in the United States.  Due to impending state and federal budget cuts this number will rise.  Now, I don't know about you, but to me this is absolutely appalling.   What the hell is really going on?   This country has and is pouring billions into other countries, we have also poured billions into companies that somehow "mismanaged" billions and needed to be "bailed out" of their situation.  But we cannot seem to find the money to make sure that our elderly are taken care of, our children are fed and educated, families that have lost employment due to our internal structure failing are helped, people living on the streets because there is no money to fund the facilities to help them.   This is a true time of challenge and controversy.

So as we sit and continue to be distracted by trivial things such as, the royal wedding, donald trump's antics, bin laden's wig being blown back, and keeping the sacramento kings in town, the things that should matter and should be addressed such as, high gas prices, the rising cost of food, medical and housing for those that need it, and education being stripped from our children, are glossed over.

Look, if you are living the "high" life, and this atrocity has not affected you, god bless you.   But, please get off the horse long enough to make sure that others less fortunate have basic human needs.   We can all sit and CONTINUE to play the Republican vs. Democrat game or the Liberal vs Conservative game as we have been doing for the past umpteenth years, while the people who really need you to make JUST decisions are suffering.

Let me tell you a little secret, poverty, hunger, sickness, mental health does not care about your party lines, nor your personal views.  People are hungry!  People need proper Medical Care!  People need housing!   GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT!

WHERE DO YOU STAND?

Follow Your Dreams

Whatever it is you want to accomplish in life, follow your dream.    We all have hopes and dreams of things we want to do with our life.  Sometimes it seems that what we want to accomplish is so far out of our reach, that it seems impossible to grasp.   Know that there is nothing you cannot do.  Know that your dreams are more than just a dream.  Know that if it is something you are passionate about, follow your dream. 

There are alot of people who wish they could do better, who dream of doing better, who pray for better. You must know that you CAN do better.   You must develop a foundation, so that as you build (follow the path to make your dream a reality), the structure of following your dream will not collapse.

Also, if you know of someone who is trying to achieve their dream, help them out.  Ask what can you do to help them.  Offer support.  As we all know, life is about highs and lows, and if you are riding high on the path to achieving your dream, but you suddenly hit a low point, DO NOT give up.   You may have to make a detour, but do not give up.  Also, do not allow anyone to make you feel that you cannot achieve your dream.  There are people who love to rain on your parade.  Keep negative people away and out of your life. 

Know that you have the power and the tools to follow your dreams.   Keep your head up, your shoulders back and walk with a bold authority.   Your dreams can become a reality.

Be Blessed

Continue to Strive to be Better

Ladies, always continue to strive to be better.  Never get complacient with where you are.  If you want better, strive for it.  That may mean stepping out of your comfort zone to seek the tools you need to get you where you should be.   Join that class, get out and network yourself.  There are a lot of women with talent that sit back and allow it to go to waste.  Many do not know where to go to sharpen their particular skill.  There are mentors out here who will help you.   There are community organizations that will also help steer you in the direction you want to go. 

We must learn to reach out to each other and ask for help.  If you just ask for help, you will be surprised that there are many that will help you in your quest to better yourself.    Also ladies, if you are blessed to have someone come up to you and ask for help, please take the time out of your schedule and help.   I know that there are many successful women, who reached their pennacle of success by allowing someone else to help them, so please ladies take the time to help another lady reach her full potential.. 

Know that you have everything within you to give you the strength to go out and strive to be better.

Be Blessed!

Happy Mother's Day

To all the mothers, Happy Mother's Day! 

Celebrate the day as you choose, and enjoy it to the fullest.  If you are blessed to still have your mother here, please cherish her.   Give her the love and respect due to her EVERYDAY.  I lost my mom 5 years ago, and they say that with time, the loss gets easier to handle.  I know that I miss her everyday, but there are certain times that I miss her a little bit more, and Mother's Day is one of those times.  

I will leave you with this:

All that I am my mother made me." John Quincy Adams

Be Blessed Always!

Tap Into Your Talent To Make Money

Regardless of how much they (media) say the economy is getting better, (I am not sure for whom, with gas prices more than a loaf of bread, but I digress), there are a lot of people struggling.  There are ways for you to make money to supplement your income.  Tap into your talent to make money.  What is it that you do well and would love to share with others?  

Women Empowering Women goal is to teach you that greater is he that is within you, than WHATEVER is going on in the world.  Learn to turn a negative into a positive.  We can all use more money!  There are ways for you to make money without selling your soul, your body, dodging the police or poisoning our community.

If cooking is your passion, start cooking classes out of your home.  There are quite a few people, (bless their hearts) that could use some help in this department, and would welcome a lesson.  You can charge for the class, and make it a fun event.  Make something simple, quick and delicious.  Think of a catchy name, make flyers, send out invites via facebook, twitter.  Hold the class once a month.  This is a nice little income.

If you love drawing, writing, painting, knitting, applying makeup, can do hair, make crafts, love to coordinate fashion for others, have a passion for making earrings, braclets, etc.  Tap into your talent to make money. 

If you are unsure what your talents are, or if you have numerous talents and want to narrow it down to the one talent that will be the most profitable for you, we would love to help you.  You can contact Women Empowering Women, via facebook, twitter (WEW2012) or call us: 916-308-4508.

Be Blessed

Enhancing Our Outside

Spring has arrived and summer is right around the corner.  As with a new season, there are new fashions and fads in clothing, etc.  Now, I am going to give it to you straight:  Ladies, please dress age and size appropriate.  Some clothing items you just cannot wear anymore, period!   Once you reach a certain age, or a certain weight, you should wear clothing that is flattering.  That does not mean that you have to dress like a hag or wear clothing that make you look like you cut arm holes in a sheet and threw it on.   Clothing styles for women of all ages and sizes have come a long way.  There are many, many fashion designers that cater to various body types and age groups.  Do a little research and find what is right for you.

Ladies, before you put that flattering top on or sundress, PLEASE, make sure you have on the proper undergarment.  If you are blessed to have a chest area that still has elasticity and sits up proper (without support), then wearing a bra is optional.  Now, if your chest area (without support) is having a meeting with any of your body parts below your navel, then you must find clothing that you can wear with a support bra. Please take the time and check yourself in the mirror before you go out.  

I love wearing shorts and skirts.  I remember the days when I could wear shorts cut in the right places, and my skirts (with my long legs) would and could stop traffic (and please believe, it wasn't too long ago).  But, there comes a time (FOR ALL OF US) when you should lower that hemline.  Now, I don't mean you have to wear long pants or even capri pants all the time.  Just make sure that what you wear is age and size appropriate. 

I know many of you are saying, "I'll wear what I want".   And you can, but remember, we have young ladies wearing clothing that a hooker would not wear.  We have young ladies, taking their clothing cues from many areas of entertainment, media, fashion mags, etc., as this is where we ALL get our ideas of what is in or what is hot this season, but understand that some of the things you see others wearing or selling are not for everyone to wear.  Just because they encourage you to buy their item, does not mean their item is appropriate for your age or size.    You can still be sexy without having your behind hanging out.   You can still be enticing and sensual without sticking two pasties on your chest and calling it a top.

Lastly, ladies enourage each other also.  If you know how to do makeup and see someone who have not mastered the art of blending, or you see someone who has false eyelashes on that look like 2 chinese folding fans, offer to help them out.  Show them how to do it properly.   If you know how to do hair, and know someone who can use some help in that department, offer to do their hair for them, or maybe show them how to do their own hair a little better.  As my friend Bonita Johnson said, "Baby, we can all use a little help enhancing ourself".

As we work to better ourself spiritually and mentally, let's not forget to enhance our outside. 

Be Blessed!

Sometimes You Have To Step Outside

I have to speak on this, because I hope women realize to help others sometimes mean you have to step outside.   I ran into a friend that attends church religiously.   She is now giving sermons and apart of every board in the church.   I asked her to attend one of my Women Empowering Women meetings when she has time, and I would love for her to speak to the group.  The next thing she said to me, knocked me out of my shoes, she asked me "Why do I keep trying to help them, just send them to church".   Then she said, "Well, I guess that's how you have always been since I've known you, trying to save everybody".    Well, after I picked my face up off the ground, I looked at her and said, "Sister, sometimes you have to step outside".

At that moment, I took my time and explained to her that helping another person realize and reach their full potential is what brings me joy.  I am not too big or have reached a plateau where I cannot pull another person up.   It is ok to wander out from your "circle" to help others.  God did it!     I love going to church and having my spirit filled.  I love to fellowship and being apart of the spiritual ministry.  I love the Lord with EVERY fiber of my being, please believe it.   But, I have a problem with women who spend ALL their time in church, on the women board, the deaconess board, the paster wife board, etc, praising God at the top of their lungs, spread out on the floor in tears giving glory, and WILL NOT step outside of that church to help another woman.    I told her that God said "The last shall be first, and the first shall be last; for many may be called, but few are chosen.   So while you thumb your nose at the women I am attempting to reach, just know that God will take that depressed woman, that abused woman, that addicted woman, that woman who has lost her luster, that woman who is trying to find her way back to greatness, that woman who wants to show her daughter or granddaughter that they are worth respect with him, before he takes that woman that stayed in her "circle of church activities".

I am blessed to have met some very prominate women in my life, and I will say that there are very few who will step outside of their "circle" to help another woman reach her full potential.   There are very few who will open their home for any woman, off the street, who wants to be empowered to walk through their door.   I know women in the church that will not blink without permission from the church.  I know women who are high ranking members of churche, who will not step outside that circle to help another woman, without a FEE.  I may be wrong, but I do not think that this is what God had in mind, when he said help the people. 


Women Empowering Women is built on the foundation of the word of God.  To teach women how to inspire, educate and motivate other women.    I do not believe that God wants us to keep our wisdom, knowledge, skills, etc only within a certain circle.  Sometimes you have to step outside.


Be Blessed!